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    Posted: 04 Feb 2016 at 1:22pm
My husband has lost too much weight. All of his vitamin levels are fine but I am looking for ways to get him to gain some weight without causing damage. Just telling him to eat more sounds risky. Are there any high calorie shakes he can drink between meals or some other suggestions?
I understand how most people, myself included, would pray to have this problem, but he is starting to look disease skinny.
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4MyBoys,
If your husband is following all  bariatric  dietary and behavioral changes recommended and the surgeon and physicians believe he is healthy then what are you concerned about?  This is the question to ask yourself? Does your husband believe he is "disease skinny". Your question is a complex one that requires a complex response. I suggest you speak to your spouse, express your concerns to him, schedule an appointment with our medical staff, dietitian and SW and  at these meetings your concerns will be addressed in  a manner that is appropriate.
 
I hope this helps. Keep us posted
 
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my family was very concerned about how much weight I lost. They kept telling me I was too skinny and called me skeleton.
It was very confusing.
All my life they kept telling me to lose weight for my health. I loss weight then they started telling me I was too skinny for my health.
I needed to keep reassuring them I have a great team of doctors. My nutritionist (Dorothy) / social worker(Nancy-aka my head fixer) and an office full of people who are there helping me to be the best I can be. I realized they were not used to seeing me thin. It took a while for them to adjust and to stop monitoring if I'm eating. I weighed only a few lbs less then them.
Till this day I haven't told them how much they hurt my feelings telling me I was too skinny ect. I know they meant well and they just love me, By the way my weight is 135 and I'm 5'3" tall.
For what it's worth, we do have the best team taking care of us. I keep all of them in my prayers everyday .

Edited by Edwina - 04 Feb 2016 at 8:57pm
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Edwina, you look great, beautiful and are very healthy!  I am proud of you.

I think that families are not used to seeing their loved one at thinness, especially if the loved one has been heavy most of his/her life.  If the bariatric doctor and staff find the patient to be at the correct weight, the family has to readjust their thinking and to accept their loved one at this new weight.  After all, the patient is very healthy and fit.  Unfortunately, most of America is overweight and the new "norm" in their minds may be a heavier person possibly?
I think it is great that bariatric patients can lose their weight and live great new lives.
Counseling is a good idea for the entire family if they are open to it.
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Nancy, Edwina and Nadia are exactly right. It is hard for families to adjust to the healthier loved one especially if said person has been obese for an extended period of time. If labs are normal and he feels good, there is no better way to know that he is healthy. Keep an eye on it but he should no the rules and the volume of food he needs to be consuming. If he is doing that, don't tell him to eat more food. Let how he feels and his blood work be your guide.
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What is his BMI? you can search BMI calculator and figure that out easily. I agree with everyone above - the drastic change in appearances can be concerning but if his labs are good, he is active and feels good and his BMI is greater than 20, then he is most likely at a healthy weight.
Maureen Miletics,RN,BSN,MS

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He could always schedule an appointment with myself or Dorothy to assess his weight loss and current diet. 
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All very sound advice in my humble opinion.  Why not schedule and appointment with the St. Luke's dietitians for both you and the hubby to attend?  
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote barbie Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 23 Feb 2016 at 10:50am
Sometimes a partner may have weight issues of their own . Sometimes we feel threatened by our spouses weight loss. Please do go to the office and talk with staff as they keep a full watch over all things concerned with our health. Weight loss such as ours ,variations surgery,affects the entire family.
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Thank you all for the advice. He was told during his last visit (1 year post op) that he should gain 10 lbs. I was just looking for ways for him to do it safely and not with Tasty Kakes.



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